I was recently going through a magazine and all of a sudden I came into this article named “Loneliness in the countryside” and it made me wonder. I started reading and my eyes filled with tears, I felt so identified in some points and I had not realised that before.
Living in the countryside is beautiful; nature all around, tranquility, animals, pure air, fresh water… when you go to town you can almost greet everyone by their name and they know yours, those you don’t know or whom you have never spoken to most of the times still wave, give a smile or leave a “hola”. We don’t know each other but we have crossed each other thousand times, we all know who the locals are. That is so fulfilling, I personally think living in a city has to be so cold in that sense.
From the other side, as the magazine was saying, when living in the countryside you can also find yourself isolated, sometimes with little or non human contact at all for days. Work never ends here. Animals cannot be stopped like an engine and when you come back you find it right there in the same place and in the same conditions, they eat everyday and they need an eye daily to ensure they are fine. Veggies need to be freshly collected everyday or they pass. Fields need constant check, a wrinkled leaf, a black spot on a plant, a bug plague… if not detected on time can harm all the harvest and therefor all the work and the income of the entire year.
I had Jaume, my first kid quite young, at the age of 25, it was beautiful and sometimes as all motherhood tough at the same time. My parents live about 35min drive from me but they are young so they are still very busy with work and my younger siblings (my brother was still 8 then.) My closest friends due to my studies abroad live between 2 and 12 hours flights…So yes, when your best friend is Korean and you live in the middle of no-where you can find yourself isolated and lonely sometimes. Those afternoon teas, that opening the door and seeing people, that “calling your best friend” when you are in need for a drink and a chat… that doesn’t exist anymore.
One year and a half later Candi was born. So I could often find myself with a recently born baby hanging in front of me, a one year and a half baby holding my hand beside me while walking a cattle of 60 to 90 cows around fields and forest. So… yes my friends, I constantly get messages saying how ideal my life is and yes I agree, It is ideal, I love it! But you need to be really strong mentally too at some points. I recently got a comment from an Emirati friend saying “you make life around you colourful”. I agree, it is about being positive and making things around bright.
And my two little cuties are the best thing that happened to me. They bring so much joy in little details, a smile, a joke, a hug, when they appear with a bunch of wild flowers in their hand “for you mom”, the freedom they have around here, all they learn observing and living in the countryside… Even there is some hard days… I still think we are in the right place. ❤️
📷 Photography by Mercè Rial